Let’s keep it strictly Business
What’s good my people? Yes it’s been a long time coming but I am back behind the keyboards on this fresh new site! Finally my website reflects my status as the coolest guy in EA! Just kidding (not kidding) Anyhow, I’ve missed writing and this time around having poured so much money into this new website and my app (which is available at the Google Play Store and the iOS store) I have to get back to writing on the regular.
So where do I start?
I learnt a valuable lesson 2 weeks ago from my younger brother about “misplaced anger” and it was a mind-blowing experience. The story is I was pissed off because a promoter that I considered a friend had dropped me from a gig in favour of another DJ. Now let’s say that the guy who replaced me isn’t my most favourite person on earth so it kinda stung. I was slotted in to spin two weeks later. I was told about the change two days before the gig and was told it made sense since the other DJ was in the country and was only available that Friday, MY FRIDAY!!!. I so was pissed off. I told my manager to tell those guys that I’ll never spin for them again and that they had taken the piss. I was fuming. I then called my brother to tell him the story. His response was life changing.
My brother said to me “you are in the wrong” – I was like “huh?” – He said “you are in the wrong”. WHAT??, by now I was even angrier, I mean, I didn’t call him for him to side with the promoters! Then he broke it down for me. He said In life it’s so easy to get angry at the wrong people and my anger was misplaced. He said that any business will do what best for the business at any given time and that the real reason I caught feelings was because I was thinking “how could my friends do this to me” as opposed to seeing it as a purely business move. He also said that the fact that I don’t feel the DJ who replaced me wasn’t the fault of the promoters and that was my own issue.
He told me that I need to keep my friendship and my business completely separate and or else I was setting myself up to be permanently angry considering that I work in a space where it’s all about relationships. I didn’t want to hear that at first, but the more I thought about it, the more it made sense. So I called my manager and apologized, accepted the change and kept it moving. Fast forward, I smashed the club two weeks later anyway. Lesson learnt.
The thing is though, I am going to heed his advice and I am going to keep it strictly business. I mean, these promoters are my boys and I love the way they are growing in the event space and we can kick it, have a drink, play FIFA – whatever, but when it comes to business, I am gonna handle it strictly as business, with deliverables and payment terms. That way I can never get pissed at them, the only person I could truly be pissed with would be me, if I don’t handle my business. This makes so much sense to me.
So let’s keep it strictly business my G’s
Selah!